
David Brooks, in his
latest New York Times piece, asks the question, "would you trade personal happiness for professional accolades?" Brooks tackles this idea first from a marital standpoint.
"Nonetheless, if you had to take more than three seconds to think about this question, you are absolutely crazy," he writes. "Marital happiness is far more important than anything else in determining personal well-being. If you have a successful marriage, it doesn’t matter how many professional setbacks you endure, you will be reasonably happy. If you have an unsuccessful marriage, it doesn’t matter how many career triumphs you record, you will remain significantly unfulfilled."
But Brooks delves into the idea of happiness even further. Read this next part, and think about your own life for a second.
If the relationship between money and well-being is complicated, the correspondence between personal relationships and happiness is not. The daily activities most associated with happiness are sex, socializing after work and having dinner with others. The daily activity most injurious to happiness is commuting. According to one study, joining a group that meets even just once a month produces the same happiness gain as doubling your income. According to another, being married produces a psychic gain equivalent to more than $100,000 a year. [Emphasis mine]
I find the sentence about commuting highly interesting, particularly in light of the fact that A) we live in a region that is commuter-heavy, and B) we live in an area that seems to constantly be debating the idea of public or mass transportation (more specifically IMPROVED public transportation).
There is little doubt that how much time you spend in your car will impact your degrees of happiness. It all depends on the payoff. You may not care that it takes you 45 minutes to get home, just as long as you are happy to see your family when you get there and you love your house, your land, your neighborhood, etc. Still, it's easy to assume that the shorter the commute, the more time you have with family and friends and neighbors and the happier you will be.
(Somewhat off-topic: I think this is what is driving the community schools argument. Most parents deal with long work commutes along with long school commutes. They are just sick and tired of it.)
A couple of years ago, I relayed a common remark that I tended to hear often (and still do): "You're so lucky that you can walk to work." As I said then, very little luck went into it. It was -- as one commenter said -- more of, "where there's a will there's a way." I had done the long-distance commute thing for some time and wanted no more of it. I wanted to live close to where I work. So we sacrificed a bit, studied up as best we could on locations and did it -- and have never regretted that decision.
Which brings me to another piece of Brooks' column.
"If you want to find a good place to live, just ask people if they trust their neighbors," he writes.
Not only do I know almost all of my neighbors (and consider them friends), but I completely trust them. Mayb
e it's because we are all "out and about" quite often; we aren't exhausted from a long day at work coupled with stressful drives home so we can play or work in the yard or just go on an evening stroll. (Or maybe I'm reading WAY too much into it.) But we socialize, we talk, we dine, we connect. I'm confident we're generally happier for it. And we possibly couldn't do that if we spent many hours a week in our cars.
Which brings me to the title of this blog post. If long commutes are bad then short or no commutes must be good, right? Maybe -- but that's not the whole point. I think for many people it's HOW they commute. I know of folks who still spend an hour on the road getting to work -- but they do it on an express bus where A) they're not driving and B) they are able to get work done or just relax and read the paper on the way. I believe they would tell you they are happier for it.
And that's where the idea of public transportation = happiness comes in. And I think Triangle residents understand this. Heck, a recent poll shows that citizens are willing to pay for improved transportation EVEN IF THEY DON'T THINK THEY PERSONALLY WILL EVER USE IT!
Even if this just shows that people want others to ride trains so that they can have the roads for themselves, then it underscores that people understand that short/no commute=happiness. It's high-time we strive for that and give people what they want -- and need.
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